Everyone experiences a low point in life where things appear to fail despite putting in immeasurable efforts. Think of a case where your family member has a mental illness after experiencing a myriad of hardships that bombarded him or all at the same time. Such a person is likely to develop depression, and the sad bit of the matter is that many people who go through this issue do not speak out. They tend to alienate themselves from others, and this is the time where they indulge in abuse of drugs in a bid to relieve the hopelessness feeling. If you ask them if they need your help, the most probable answer that they’ll give is a denial. The following are some of the steps of helping such an individual to regain normalcy:
1. Enquire how they are faring
A distressed person is unlikely to be friendly as they want to be left alone. But you need to approach them meekly and know how they are doing. Make the individual understand that they can confide anything with you. Also, you should be aware that such people contemplate suicide while left on their own. Before they can begin speaking out about it, ask them if they have ever thought of taking their life. This will help the person understand that feeling suicidal is normal, but there’s a way out of it.
2. Employ efficient listening skills
Many people are often poor listeners when trying to help a depressed individual. They want to talk a lot giving options and reasons as to why the person shouldn’t feel distressed. Don’t fall into this common pit. Instead, listen attentively to the person when they agree to open up. Avoid unnecessary interjections as they speak. After they are done talking you can now tell them how to recover from the pains.
3. Avoid proposing immediate solutions all the time
Not everything can be handled immediately, and this is something that you need to understand. At times there are some situations that you need to let the individual inform you on how you can help. Encouraging them to see a counselor immediately may diminish their trust in you. They may feel that they are a nag. Therefore listen attentively and if the individual proposes some particular kind of help, avail it if possible.
4. Help find them help when they need it
Your family member needs you throughout the recovery process. Therefore, it’s up to you to find them a counselor especially in cases that warrant expert advice. You shouldn’t, however, do this in a way that shows as if they are a nag that requires to be transferred to another person. Instead, do it in a polite way that shows concern.
5. Take care of yourself
Your stressed family member requires a role model to help him/her overcome the situation. You need to, therefore, step up to the task and show that you are capable of fulfilling their needs. Don’t allow their problems to have a toll on yourself mentally. Stay strong and prove that it’s possible to feel bad and still look good.
When encountered with such a case of a family member who doesn’t want to talk to anyone, don’t let them fix their issues all by themselves. By doing that, you’ll be offering them more reasons to think of doing rash things. Show care and affection throughout this period, and at the end of the day, you’ll save a life. A desperate person is fragile and needs to be handled carefully to help them feel better once more. Remember, nobody is immune to feeling mentally disturbed.